Do you lead with trust? Or do you lead with distrust?

Written By Alina Costache

The other day, a friend was sharing how a powerful shift she recently made was to decide to 𝒆𝒙𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒅 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒔𝒕 π’‡π’Šπ’“π’”π’•. It proved to be transformational for many of her relationships.

We spoke about our common background, and how growing up in a hyper individualistic and competitive culture can shape our ability to trust.

 It reminded me of Rachel Botsman's concept of β€œπ’•π’“π’–π’”π’• π’„π’‚π’‘π’‚π’„π’Šπ’•π’šβ€* -- our ability to hold positive expectations about others. And how, like in this illustration of β€˜give and catch’ she created, this can lead to a virtuous circle of trust; or, if broken, can be the beginning of the end.

*Not to be confused with trusting people quickly!

A couple of reflection prompts for you:
πŸ“Œ How π’‚π’˜π’‚π’“π’† 𝒂𝒓𝒆 π’šπ’π’– 𝒐𝒇 π’šπ’π’–π’“ 𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒔𝒕 π’„π’‚π’‘π’‚π’„π’Šπ’•π’š - and the factors that influence it?
πŸ“Œ How might π’„π’‰π’‚π’π’ˆπ’Šπ’π’ˆ π’šπ’π’–π’“ π’π’˜π’ 𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒑𝒔 π’‡π’Šπ’“π’”π’• π’Šπ’ 𝒕𝒉𝒆 β€˜π’•π’“π’–π’”π’• 𝒅𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆’ shift the quality of your interaction with the other person(s)?
πŸ“Œ How are you π’”π’‰π’π’˜π’Šπ’π’ˆ (𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 π’•π’†π’π’π’Šπ’π’ˆ) π’šπ’π’–π’“ 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 π’šπ’π’– 𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒔𝒕 π’•π’‰π’†π’Ž?

Stay fierce & curious

Alina

Alina Costache
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